This post comes at 2.15 am on a Sunday morning. Apologies if it's poorly worded. Apologies if it's badly edited. Let's just hope it turns out to be better than Dan Brown's Inferno.
Cat's got her claws out.
Yes, this is a little bit of a rant, but I don't care. The last time I let my mind roam and wander free as the daffodils in the wind, I loved every minute of that freedom. So, in my current state of being worked up, being a little hot tempered and being very, very concerned about the state of affairs, literally, affairs of the people around me and of the people in denial around me, this goes out to you. Ladies, stiffen that upper lip, straighten that spine and let's get our acts together. Gentlemen, wake up, pull your pants up and know when you need to get your act straight. So, let me get started.
When a girl tells her boyfriend that she doesn't want anything, gentlemen, get the lady flowers. If she's allergic, get her a book. Not a girl who reads (okay, I'm sorry, I've got a smirk on my face that I can't help), then get her something she generally loves. Rule number one, the girl just wants to spend time with you. If you're going to make her feel extra special, everyone's winning! How difficult is that for you to get through your heads?
Next. This comes from watching the people who are close to me, and let's face it, a little bit of experience as well. Don't play around with people. If you like someone, treat them right. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship you're in. Open, closed, friends-with-benefits, serious, casual, straight, gay, whatever. I don't care. Treat your partner right. Regardless of your gender, treat your partner right. If your partner's giving you time and they expect the same, don't be a dipshit and deny them that respect. EVERYONE deserves respect.
Another one, regardless of gender. Know when you're not in a healthy relationship. I'm not even going to get started on the abusive aspects, that's a whole different story. All I'm going to voice is the fact that if you feel like you're getting taken advantage of, emotionally, mentally and/or physically, get out. Stop being in denial. Get out. Seek help. There is always help. If you're putting everything you have into a relationship without expecting anything in return, guess what, you're doing it wrong. Karma may take a little while, so egg it on.
Ultimately though, it all boils down to one thing. You deserve happiness. If you're not happy, something's not right. Tell your partner about it. Find a solution to it, together. Give it all you have. What do you have to lose if you're sure the effort is worth it? If the other person isn't as invested in the relationship as you are, it isn't the end of the world. The cool thing about life is that love keeps coming back.
Cat's got her claws out.
Yes, this is a little bit of a rant, but I don't care. The last time I let my mind roam and wander free as the daffodils in the wind, I loved every minute of that freedom. So, in my current state of being worked up, being a little hot tempered and being very, very concerned about the state of affairs, literally, affairs of the people around me and of the people in denial around me, this goes out to you. Ladies, stiffen that upper lip, straighten that spine and let's get our acts together. Gentlemen, wake up, pull your pants up and know when you need to get your act straight. So, let me get started.
When a girl tells her boyfriend that she doesn't want anything, gentlemen, get the lady flowers. If she's allergic, get her a book. Not a girl who reads (okay, I'm sorry, I've got a smirk on my face that I can't help), then get her something she generally loves. Rule number one, the girl just wants to spend time with you. If you're going to make her feel extra special, everyone's winning! How difficult is that for you to get through your heads?
Next. This comes from watching the people who are close to me, and let's face it, a little bit of experience as well. Don't play around with people. If you like someone, treat them right. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship you're in. Open, closed, friends-with-benefits, serious, casual, straight, gay, whatever. I don't care. Treat your partner right. Regardless of your gender, treat your partner right. If your partner's giving you time and they expect the same, don't be a dipshit and deny them that respect. EVERYONE deserves respect.
Another one, regardless of gender. Know when you're not in a healthy relationship. I'm not even going to get started on the abusive aspects, that's a whole different story. All I'm going to voice is the fact that if you feel like you're getting taken advantage of, emotionally, mentally and/or physically, get out. Stop being in denial. Get out. Seek help. There is always help. If you're putting everything you have into a relationship without expecting anything in return, guess what, you're doing it wrong. Karma may take a little while, so egg it on.
Ultimately though, it all boils down to one thing. You deserve happiness. If you're not happy, something's not right. Tell your partner about it. Find a solution to it, together. Give it all you have. What do you have to lose if you're sure the effort is worth it? If the other person isn't as invested in the relationship as you are, it isn't the end of the world. The cool thing about life is that love keeps coming back.
You know, I'd really like to agree with this post and affirm that tons of people live by this, but most people don't. I've stumbled across numerous confused souls, tormented by their emotions, who proclaim, "I just don't know! I don't have feelings for her/him!"
ReplyDeletePerhaps you should devote a post to the follies of unrequited love and the like. There's a thin line between 'She's the one' and just freakin' logic. I mean, you can go all out, chasing this 'love' but everyone has their ulterior motives, and if s/he's leading you on and not concreting anything, her/his best intentions usually don't involve pleasing you.
I mean, know when to give up. You could chase love off a cliff and you still wouldn't catch it- even mid-air, on the long way down.
Unrequited love has way too many angles to it. And we all know logic takes a backseat in most relationships. It's the backseat driver and we prefer ignoring it until the euphoria sitting beside us has given us too many wrong signals for us to ignore and too many road signs called out too late.
DeleteWhile I hold fidelity and loyalty pretty high on my list of values, I don't think we're swans to mate for life and stick through loveless marriages and bad relationships. Having your heart broken is not the end of the world.